Gravitas: The 8 Strengths That Redefine Confidence by Lisa Sun

Author:Lisa Sun [Lisa Sun]
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: Hay House Inc.
Published: 2023-07-18T00:00:00+00:00

2. . . . AND level up to win today.

While all this seismic change is taking place, we need to succeed in the present, within the current systems of how our culture evaluates who is confident and who is not. How do we do this exactly? By channeling new skills to increase our capability level today so we can ace those selfadvocating and public-facing moments in which women are least comfortable. And I know we can. A particularly interesting trend we noticed in our data was that the cocktail of strengths changed as women aged. For example, we saw that as working women moved up the career ladder into more senior levels, their average number of superpowers went from two to three or four. In the move from junior to mid-level positions, the superpowers most often added were Leading or Knowing. From mid-level to senior positions, the most often added traits were Leading, Performing, Creating, or Self-Sustaining, with women becoming more self-assured and creative with the wisdom of experience and the desire for reinvention.

The qualities that most level up our comfort across the board are Leading, Performing, Self-Sustaining, and to some extent, Creating. Adding any one of these qualities to your arsenal of skills is cumulative—you will be better equipped for this current world system. Adding Leading, Performing, or Self-Sustaining to any of these combinations amplifies confidence levels in every situation and increases satisfaction levels by two- to three-fold. The work I am advocating is an “and” and not an “or”; we must expand society’s definition of confidence and we need to acquire skills that can help us in the present. Most of us do not need to be Leading and Performing all the time, but becoming proficient at these skills for situations we want to master will help us go much further today.

Let me be clear: I am angry about this. You may be too after reading it. You may be sitting there thinking, “After all I read, you are asking us to play the game?!” We’ve been bringing a tennis racket to a baseball diamond, and until we can change the game we’re playing, we’ve got to swing a bat. Perhaps this is why Sheryl Sandberg, the former COO of Facebook (now Meta), believes we are falling short in giving young girls the tools to lead, and why she is advocating for us to train them on Leading skills sooner. Similarly, this may also explain why many women decide to strike out on their own as entrepreneurs (as we will share later in the book, starting your own business requires channeling Creating, Leading, Performing, and Self-Sustaining superpowers).

One of my mentors, Jennifer Justice, founder and CEO of The Justice Dept., an advisory firm advocating for female talent and executives, has nine-year-old twins, Jack and Nico. She recently relayed to me a story that illustrates this: On the twins’ ninth birthday, she offered them both their own individual day to celebrate. When she asked what they each wanted to do, her son, Jack, spoke up immediately: “I want to go to the water park with two friends.

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